Some months ago a young woman came to see me who had just turned 18 — and had been questioning her sexual orientation for years. She had been attracted to girls since she was at high school, but she had had sex with both girls and boys. She now believed she preferred girls, but how could she be a lesbian when she had also slept with boys? Her friends told her she was bisexual, but she didn't like to be labelled. It is quite common for lesbians to first have relationships with men.
How to Know If You Are a Lesbian: 15 Steps (with Pictures)
Sexual orientation is not binary—it exists along a spectrum. Embarking on this process may feel overwhelming. Empower yourself to uncover your true self. Remain honest and open with yourself—trust your instincts.
Asking someone you just met if she is lesbian or bisexual is kind of awkward and they might be taken aback. A better approach is to try and find out in more subtle ways. You can look for the obvious signs like a marriage equality sticker on her car or a piece of rainbow jewelry. But these days, many gay-friendly straight people sport those things.
What are some signs you might be a lesbian? Is there a test to see if you are a lesbian or not? When you are questioning your sexuality and wondering if you are a lesbian or not, you may be hoping there are certain signs that will help you figure it out. Although this is not a sure-fire test, if you experience three or more of these eight signs, you might be a lesbian.